Legal Counseling for Women in Divorce

Graphic: help i am getting a divorce, where do I start? what do I do?

You’re getting divorced.  You have a lot of questions.  A lot of them have nothing to do with the legal process but can impact it.

  • How do you stay true to yourself without rolling over?
  • How do you protect yourself, your children, your future?
  • How do you create a new future when you’ve had so much invested in the old one?
  • Who can you trust?  Who can you turn to, who has your best interests at heart?
  • You’re looking for certainty but can’t seem to find it. What is going to happen next?

Kim provides Legal Counseling for women who are going through complicated divorces.  She has a diverse background with divorce, including:

  • Her personal life (including 3 divorces) has given her an experiential understanding of the emotional experience of divorce.
  • As former Executive Direction of a Domestic Violence Shelter and Counseling Center, she has a keen interest in making sure her clients are safe.
  • After around 20 years as a lawyer, providing services such as divorce trials, mediation, collaborative law, and peacemaking approaches to divorce, she understands the legal process and strategies, when to fight and when to resolve.
  • Around 25 years of transformational technology and consciousness studies has prepared her to work with women who are interested in using divorce as an opportunity for transformation.
  • Her training and experience as a life coach is put to use in helping clients make transitions and build a new future.
  • While Kim is not a therapist, she has been trained in some therapy modalities.  For example, she participated in an Imago Relationship weekend designed for Imago therapists.  She has been trained in Building Sustainable Relationships, Developmental Trauma, and other topics.  These trainings alert Kim to issues that ought to be referred to qualified professionals.
  • As a mother, grandmother, step-mother, foster mother, guardian ad litem, and rescuer of many teenagers, she has dealt with children of all ages and challenges.
  • Workshop leader for Omega Institute*, the Women’s Resource Center of Alamance County, Buncombe County Marriage and Family Therapists, and many others on divorce-related subjects.  Kim also trains divorce lawyers around the world.

About Legal Counseling:

Lawyers must be licensed in every state, if they are to represent clients in the capacity as lawyer.  As legal counselor, Kim will partner with you and your lawyer as part coach, part consultant, part counselor, to help you get through your divorce with integrity.  She is your partner and guide in finding the services that will meet your deepest needs in your divorce.  Some examples of topics we might address are:

  • How do I choose the right lawyer?
  • How do I communicate with my lawyer to express and meet my needs?
  • How do I reduce legal fees?
  • How do I engage conflict and resolve it, rather than escalating it, without just playing dead?
  • How do I keep my children safe, well, and nurtured through the process?
  • How do I keep MYSELF safe, well, and nurtured?
  • How do I stay true to myself and not get lost in the process?
  • What is my version of the high road and how do I find it and take it?
  • What do I do with all these feelings I’m having?
  • What will I do after divorce?  All my plans were wrapped up in my spouse, now what?!!

 

Why Women?

Since I am a woman, I think my perspective aligns and resonates more with other women.  I do occasionally work with men, but that is the exception.

 

Photo: group of five women who led the divorce weekend at Omega*Visiting Faculty, Omega Institute, Rhinebeck, New York.  2014.

[At Omega, each year, more than 23,000 people attend workshops and educational programs delivered by hundreds of teachers, artists, healers, and thinkers on the leading edge of their disciplines. With special attention to our key initiatives in sustainability, women’s leadership, veterans care, and service, we bring awareness to issues that must be addressed in order for our society to heal and flourish. See http://www.eomega.org/]

Divorce With Power and Clarity.

From the catalog: Divorce With Power and Clarity. Divorce, no matter how amicable, is never easy. The legal hurdles and the emotional turmoil can wreak havoc on our lives. The insomnia, angry outbursts, and bouts of grief can make us feel our world has been turned upside down.

This workshop—for women only—is designed to help guide us through divorce and its aftermath. If you are heading for a divorce, are in the process now, are recently divorced, or divorced years ago and still struggling with it, the team of experts leading this program—J. Kim Wright, Jac Patrissi, Kim Pentecost, and Ellen Kellner—can help. Together they offer a comprehensive approach to making divorce less tumultuous, and guide us to see it as an opportunity for healing, transformation, and empowerment.

Throughout the weekend we learn how to understand and navigate the legal system; how to energetically separate from our spouses and the negative patterns that have developed in the relationship; how to leave and heal from destructive relationships, how to best cope with co-parenting issues with a difficult ex-partner; how to develop divorce solutions that nurture our children; and how to create a new life that fits our values and most cherished commitments to ourselves and to others.

Workshop:

Divorce with Power & Clarity

Participants:   Women-only.  Contemplating or involved in a divorce.  With a male co-facilitator, this can also be offered for men or a mixed group.

Past Offerings:   I’ve offered this content to clients since 1994.  I was on the faculty of Omega Institute in 2014.

Time:  Weekend workshop.  I can lead it alone but find having a co-leader who is a therapist to be useful.

Content:  Divorce, no matter how amicable, is never easy. The legal hurdles and the emotional turmoil can wreak havoc on our lives. The insomnia, angry outbursts, and bouts of grief can make us feel our world has been turned upside down.

This workshop is designed to help guide women through divorce and its aftermath. If you are heading for a divorce, are in the process now, are recently divorced, or divorced years ago and still struggling with it, this workshop offers a comprehensive approach to making divorce less tumultuous, and guide us to see it as an opportunity for healing, transformation, and empowerment.

Throughout the weekend we learn how to understand and navigate the legal system; how to energetically separate from our spouses and the negative patterns that have developed in the relationship; how to leave and heal from destructive relationships, how to best cope with co-parenting issues with a difficult ex-partner; how to develop divorce solutions that nurture our children; and how to create a new life that fits our values and most cherished commitments to ourselves and to others.